Have you ever taken the time to reflect on the differences between your first love and your current relationship? Now is the perfect opportunity to do so. Think about the habits you had with your first love and compare them to the habits you have now with your spouse or significant other. How have your feelings and actions changed? Are there any similarities? Take a moment to analyze the type of arguments you used to have and compare them to the ones you have now. How have you both grown in resolving conflicts over the years?
Now, let's delve into what love means to you. Is it reflected in your words, actions, or both? And how accountable are you for what you say and do in your relationships? These are important questions to consider as you navigate your journey towards self-love and healthy relationships.
Take a moment to ask yourself, "Why?" Why do you need certain things or want specific qualities in a relationship? Understanding your motivations and desires will help you better understand what truly makes you happy and fulfilled in love. It will also shed light on any beliefs or barriers that may have hindered your ability to practice self-love in the past.
For me, the journey to self-love began with the realization that I had spent my life seeking validation from others. I was constantly trying to fit into their expectations, whether it was my appearance, attitude, or intelligence. But I realized that self-love cannot be dependent on the opinions of others. It starts by accepting and embracing who you are, even if others try to mold you or label you differently.
Looking back, I now understand that I couldn't have changed how certain people treated me, because their actions were a reflection of their own insecurities. Learning about deflection and how it affects our interactions has been eye-opening. It has allowed me to better understand myself and communicate more effectively with others.
So, my encouragement to you is to embark on the journey of self-love. Reflect on your past relationships, understand what love means to you, and let go of the need for external validation. Embrace who you are and work towards becoming the person you want to be.
Remember, you deserve love and happiness, and it all starts from within!